The Sage Says

                “Nice guys finish last” …so do nice girls. It’s the ebb and flow of energy, or in this case, lack thereof. When someone is too passive, too agreeable, or too sweet all of the time, the frequency of that energy will do one of two things: It will connect with its opposite in the other person, creating a type of dominance, or it will reflect a similar energy from the other person and create stillness. All energy needs to have ebb and flow. Without its counterpart, things get off balance. One will most likely get bored or annoyed with always having to balance out the “too” much of anything. It is important that we learn a balance within our own personality. Now that doesn’t imply being mean, but we must be strong enough to put up boundaries and have opinions. Some people will say they don’t like a person who can’t make decisions. Passiveness is a sign of weakness, and then the strength of the polar side, will eventually dominate. Thi...

             This is something I have been pondering for years now. I have been deeply into studying Buddhism, and Zen, and others of the sort. All of them speak of no attachments. How is it possible to love without being attached? Well, it is possible, but not until we’ve practiced not being attached; not being attached to outcomes, people, and things. Once we’ve mastered that, love is just something else to not be attached to.           What is unconditional love? It’s exactly as it sounds, loving without conditions to an outcome or the person we’re loving. I would imagine that is how relationships can be successful, with minimal conflict. Of course, we are human, and our ego will continue to show itself, especially when the mirror is constantly being held in front of our face. Relationships of all kinds are just mirrors of ourselves, as we only know what we are or have been. What we don’t like in others...

UPDATE September 16, 2022: My writing style has gotten way way softer, but my beliefs and research will always be solid.           Is this the same song, different version? And the more specific question you may be asking yourself is "how can I allow myself to have such a big heart, when all it does is suffer afterwards?" I wonder, is that why it’s so big, to fit all that shit in it? And then we have to deal with what’s there! Like any muscle, the more we use it, the bigger it gets. Even our stomach, the more we feed it, the more it wants to eat. Isn’t that physiological fact enough to convince us to stop?...Apparently not, in matter of the heart speaking....           Some will say, like in The Secret “our thoughts cause our feelings” It’s always the thoughts fault! If we can THINK differently about how something “feels” then it can and will feel different!…or at least go away quicker b...