Trusting Others is an Attachment

        Trusting people is having attachments, and attachments create suffering. This may turn some people off because most will say without trust, there is no relationship. But honestly, when we trust what people say in hopes they say what they mean, or will follow through with their word, what happens when they don’t? We get mad, upset, disappointed, and feel like we can’t trust people. That’s why I do my best to practice Buddhist teachings. Whatever is, just is. If someone says something and they don’t follow through, that is their path, not ours. If that’s how they choose to show up in life, let them. We don’t have to choose to be affected by it. Character is one’s own personal responsibility. No one is responsible for another person except themselves. Now, in marriage, I could see how this can be an exception, but then again, one would hope they married someone with character and integrity. If not, again it’s on them. And it’s also on us to choose to continue with that person or not. People love to bang their heads against the walls waiting for people to change. That is not a safe place to be. People will change when they are ready, if they ever are.

Ultimately, it is up to us to choose how much we rely on others to be who we think they are, and who they say they are. That is why it is best to just practice accepting all that is, to be; and understanding other’s paths are just what they are. We cling so tightly to expectations of others that it can be very damaging to our hearts and souls. When we can be so reliant on ourselves and our spiritual practice, nothing can really penetrate that. When we put our happiness in the hands of others and their behaviors, then I hate to say, prepare for some disappointment. People are just human. They make mistakes. They mostly think they can follow through and be who they think they are, but that is what evolution of the soul is. It takes mistakes and hardships to recognize the need for growth.

We grow too, when we realize that we cannot put our happiness in the hands of something or someone else. Well, only if we choose to see the lesson. These lessons are very painful, but they are also extremely eye opening. Partnerships are tricky in Buddhism because of the no attachment principal. How do we not become attached to our partners? Well, practicing impermanence. Nothing is forever except our soul, but it will continue on in other forms and perhaps other dimensions. We have a soul contract with many many people. That is why they come into our lives. There was something that was not complete in a past life and most likely we were with that person then too. Whether it be as a friend, parent-child, teacher, whatever the relationship was, the reason we meet them again in this lifetime, is to do the dance again. There was something not fulfilled in the last meeting of souls, so now we must exist with them to find the lesson and grow more spiritually.

Not everyone wants to practice Buddhism, and that is ok. Just prepare for suffering of some sort along life’s path. That is ok too. That is what our souls must need in order to evolve and learn. Some people never learn, and that is ok too. They will just come back and keep repeating their karma until they evolve. Buddhism is not a religion, but a set of principles. You can be Jewish, Catholic, Christian, Muslim, or whatever, and still practice Buddhism. The principals teach us to accept things in life and understand karma and spiritual evolution better. It teaches us about non-attachment while still being able to love. However, we get to love and appreciate everything. Most people find that hard, and that is ok, they will continue to suffer.

Trust is not in someone else. Trust is in ourselves and our higher power. If we trust in those, there is no need to trust other people. Because once we know that everything happens for a reason and that everything is perfect just the way it is, then there is no reason to need to trust others. The reason people find the need to is because they really don’t trust themselves, or a higher power. Once we choose that spiritual path, then we trust that everything is meant to happen for our soul’s spiritual advancement. We understand that pain, and betrayal is part of our lesson. We trust that we were meant to experience that to learn and grow. To hold more value to ourselves and how we choose to react and be. Trust is only within us and our God, it is not in other people. Although, we are all connected, there is no “out there”. What we seek “out there” is really what we are seeking within. Once we fulfill it within ourselves, there is no need to seek it in others as we understand life and what our soul is meant to experience.

So, do you trust yourself, your higher power? It's really all the trust that we need. Try to let go of attachments on expectations of other people and their behavior. I promise you will be more at peace with life. Allow others to just be, and if we choose to not journey with them any longer, that is about all that we have control over. The rest is perspective.

Happy Healing! ✨🌟✨

Gia Rose

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